Look a certain way. Be a certain size. Have a certain color of hair. Wear a certain type of clothes. Eat certain foods.

The list goes on and on.

It’s extremely hard living in an age where we are socially influenced to be a certain way and do certain things.

Let’s break the mold and be happy just the way we are. How do we do that? Let’s take a cue from my current favorite confidence advocate, Ashley Graham. She’s the first “plus size” (why even is that a thing?!) model to cover many magazines and is a speaker on how to be confident. From her speech at the Urban Partnership 25th Anniversary Benefit: “This confidence is not something that happens overnight. I have been working on it for a long time. I look in the mirror and do affirmations: ‘You are bold. You are brilliant. You are beautiful.’ If my lower pooch is really popping out that day, I look at it and say, ‘Pooch, you are cute!’ Words have power, and if you are going to use your words negatively, then that is exactly what is going to happen in your life. You can eat a whole bowl of pasta and then you can go and do a lingerie shoot the next day, and I say to myself, ‘What the hell was I thinking?’ I am just like any other woman and I think I am the ‘fattest woman alive’ – but it is really about how you handle your situation.”

Raise your hand if you relate to what she said?! My hand is definitely up with you.

If there is one thing you take away from this post let it be this: You are beautiful no matter your shape, size, color, height, weight or number on your pants. When you start repeating and believing this every single day, confidence will come a lot easier.

“But it’s hard.” Oh honey, do I know! Some days I wake up and scare myself by looking in the mirror. Yet, Ashley stated it’s how you handle your situation that matters. Ok, so I have a zit this morning or I’m feeling bloated today. It’s not as big a deal as we make it out to be. WE ARE OUR HARDEST CRITICS. We look in the mirror and tear ourselves apart. EACH. AND. EVERY. DAY. Isn’t that sad to think about?

Today, Inspirators, I am challenging you to BREAK THE MOLD.

Break that “ritual” of telling yourself you are ugly, fat, not good enough, not worthy, too big or too small.

YOU ARE PERFECT and no body, even yourself, should be able to tell you otherwise. We need to focus on celebrating ourselves each day and each moment. So you ate that cupcake, cool, treat yo’ self girl! Instead of berating yourself for breaking an impossible diet in one moment, enjoy that cupcake and don’t tell yourself you are terrible.

This is the moment to change your damaging, confidence killing mindset. It’s time to turn a new page and embrace each and everything about yourself.

Who’s with me?!

Start each morning with words of love or kindness in the mirror. Do some morning stretches to wake up your body to take on the world. I believe that you can do this. I believe that with a little work a routine will be formed and you can change your view on yourself. Confidence starts and ends with you, Inspirators!

To find out more about Ashley Graham and her confidence journey click below!

Ashley Graham